Hope That Heals

Case Study

James & Rebecca

James, a new church member and recent convert, has been open about the challenges he has overcome, including a period of homelessness and struggles with gambling. His journey of faith has been inspiring to many, and he often speaks about how biblical principles have helped him turn his life around. He and Rebecca have been together for two years and are now engaged, looking forward to building a life together.

As they prepare for marriage, James frequently reflects on the importance of a strong Christian household. He often references Ephesians 5, encouraging Rebecca to trust his leadership and embrace the biblical role of a wife. He has suggested that a godly home requires clear roles, and that she reconsider her priorities, particularly in relation to work and external influences. While Rebecca enjoys her job and has been a steady financial contributor to their household, James has expressed concerns about long-term security and whether their finances would be better managed together, with one account under shared oversight.

In recent months, James has encouraged Rebecca to be mindful of the influences around her, questioning the value of certain friendships and whether social media is a distraction from their future as a married couple. He has suggested that sharing an account would be a way to strengthen trust and transparency between them. He has also become more involved in decision-making, sometimes expressing frustration when Rebecca does not immediately agree with his perspective.

Rebecca has found some of these changes difficult to navigate and has shared her thoughts in a women’s prayer group. Some encouraged her to remain steadfast in prayer, especially as James has made such huge changes over the years they have known him, often referring to his powerful testimony. Others gently suggested that she reflect on how decisions in their relationship are being made and whether she feels heard in shaping their future together. As their wedding day approaches, Rebecca continues to seek clarity on how best to honour her faith, her relationship, and her own sense of security.

James, meanwhile, is eager to step fully into his role as a husband. He often speaks about his desire to be a strong and godly man, leading his household in faith and stability. He has shared with close friends that he wants to build a home free from the mistakes of his past, ensuring that his family never experiences the hardships he once faced.